Hmm tricky one... several thoughts here... 1) in a lot where the seller says not splitting st this time, almost instantly every time buyers start saying dibs on this piece or that if split... I don't see any issues with that! But sometimes one or 2 pieces of that lot are not taken and that dibs can drag out for weeks or even months... this recently occurred with a lot that
@Zmasterben was selling of PCAs, over time buyers found what they needed elsewhere and backed out of their dibs. I think that is acceptable.
Note 2) I recently called dibs on a rack that the seller wasn't clear in my opinion about splitting and wanted to sell both racks. He contacted me, said not interested in splitting at this time. No harm... that's fine a few hours later he said willing to split if both are spoken for but at that point shipping was not included... changing the price per rack obviously. I feel that if you change the agreement thats potential buyer should have the right to release dibs if they do not agree to the change within the sale.
3) the slippery slope of overseas shipping, we are all aware that shipping prices can be drastically higher going overseas, being that this community is international in my opinion the seller should state that they are not in north america but understand that it is not required... you should check where the seller is located and if you fail to do so, suck it up and honor your dibs. I have seen many buyers say dibs depending on shipping which I feel is a fair statement to make and you should make your decision in a timely manner, anyone has the right to say back up at which point it would be their if it falls through.
Other than those circumstances, just my opinion but "Dibs" should be binding unless you work it out with the seller to release that claim. This market place like any other, craiglist,
eBay buy it now, is a first come first serve and I personally think "dibs/PM coming/ or some other comment to mark your place in line" are necessary to protect the seller from being forced with a choice that could end up discrediting their reputation... again just my 2 cents on the matter!
Sorry for the wall of text!! As always fellow chipper Ben AKA @UScollector!! Lmao