Cash Game Does your significant other know? (3 Viewers)

[ekricket]

Lol my wife is a PCF member and plays at meetups and our home games. She’s pretty aware of my chip and poker spending.

 

[Statesvegas]

My bride always inquires on how my son and I each did the m morning after each session. We shoot her straight, but our losses/winnings are rarely more than a couple of hundred dollars. She doesn't complain and is happy me and the kid share this interest.

 

[CraigT78]

5 hours in at the $.25/$.50 table and I'm asking my wife to western union me more money.

She really needs to get Venmo.

 

[WedgeRock]

on Monday I was heading to the bank to withdraw $15k to ensure I was properly rolled to sit at the table full of nits for a long weekend.

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@Grant

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She suggested $25k.

100% she's buying a $10k gift for herself this weekend.

That's an angle I hadn't considered before.

If you can't spot the sucker in the first 15 minutes....

 

[Marc Hedrick]

I now feel severely under-rolled for this weekend.

 

[WedgeRock]

I now feel severely under-rolled for this weekend.

Sit at a table with Craig on Thursday. You'll be properly rolled for the big boy table on Friday and Saturday.

 

[p5woody]

My wife thinks this should be enough for a 3 day meetup.

 

[krafticus]

I told my wife I was taking $1000 to a meetup and she asked "why so much". I took more, but that's where we stand.

Wait until I tell her I'm about to order 2000 more CPC's .....

 

[renegadegatorman]

just curious on a serious note... what stakes do people on here typically play? NL / PLO / Limit poker?

i hear people spending $$$$ on chips but what stakes support the funding or is it a pure collection hobby?

I just play .25/.50 but have never felt I needed a $15k bankroll lol.

 

[NeutronHim]

She knows you well, that you’d need $25k for a weekend of 25/50c poker.


My wife know that I can win or lose thousands at poker any time I play. Then at the same time she has been harassing me for spending $11 on cocktail ice cube molds.

I have given up trying to understand her thinking or (lack of) logic.

to be completely fair, if you are a slightly winning or slightly losing player you're not actually spending anything (or losing that much, compared to the enjoyment you derive) in expectation. Maybe you win 1000 half the time and lose 1100 half the time and spend 50$ in ev, but the night out with friends is worth it. However, that 11$ is always gonna be 11$. If you're slightly winning, then you're basically getting paid for good fun; an infinitely better proposition than paying any amount, however small, for another avenue of enjoyment.

 

[ovo]

she doesn't ask, but I've been giving her half my winnings from the beginning

 

[casinochipper22]

worse than getting into the numbers with the spouse is this gem of a conversation...

"How was your night, did you win?"
"No, I lost a lot."
"Well did you have fun at least?"

She has learned over the years not to ask me that follow up question.

 

[kirchhausen]

Mine doesn't care about the stakes, but she is results oriented. and she always wants a cut of the winnings (like there are winnings lololol)

 

[allforcharity]

Hey, if you're comfortable with potentially losing $15k, more power to you.

 

[ValueTown]

15 to 25 K for micro stakes? Seems like overkill.

I have a poker fund, so wife doesn't care. We don't talk about it much since she knows I don't keep running to the ATM on nights when I get felted.

 

[chippitydoodah]

I mixed these answers in no matter how much I won or lost...

"Broke even"
"Lost a bit"
"Won a little"

 

[Big Money]

As I'm sitting here on the plane heading to my next meetup, a thought popped into my mind.

Does your spouse know what stakes you play?

I had let my wife know on Monday I was heading to the bank to withdraw $15k to ensure I was properly rolled to sit at the table full of nits for a long weekend.

She was taken back a bit, so I asked her if that was a problem?

"I'm surprised" she said. "Is that all you need?"

I told her we were playing $.25/$.50 so it shouldn't get too crazy. She suggested $25k.

So what says you? I was embarrassed that she thought I played bigger than $.25/$.50.

Do y'all tell your spouses?

LMAO, like blind size matters in our games…

 

[XBobdog]

She doesn't ask
I don't tell

BUT... I don't play for 15 K....

 

[CraigT78]

https://gofund.me/ed0c8140

 

[Hot Nuts]

My philosophy is don't ask, don't tell.

edit. I didn't even see @XBobdog post.

 

[Spin2win300]

We pretty much keep out finances separate. She I dont play really high stake, usually $1/$1 and I don't take more than 300/400 to play. Generally dont talk about loses but will tell her about nice profit nights.

 

[TX_Golf_N_Poker]

I mixed these answers in no matter how much I won or lost...

"Broke even"
"Lost a bit"
"Won a little"

This is the best approach with my wife.

Because... A friend kept bugging me to come to a local cardroom that he said was stocked with fish and calling stations. I had been pretty much a max 25c/50c player and was a little concerned about playing $1/3. Finally I agreed to go, bought in for $300 and went home with almost $1K. Excitedly told the wife about my success, and she held out her hand for a share. I reluctantly gave her some, so now when I have a good night, I only "won a little."

 

[krafticus]

Yeah….

Broke even, but had fun….
Lost a few bucks, but had a great time…
Made a little, but got to socialize and had a good time…..

 

[andrebttx]

I mixed these answers in no matter how much I won or lost...

"Broke even"
"Lost a bit"
"Won a little"

Well this is obviously just coming up with a balanced range! Just gotta randomize based off the time on the clock when you get back home. It’s unexploitable by a spouse!

 

[buzzmonkey]

She doesn't care. I keep a separate bankroll. I haven't taken money out of my check or savings in almost 7 years because I always play within it.

 

[dmoney]

I mixed these answers in no matter how much I won or lost...

"Broke even"
"Lost a bit"
"Won a little"

This is the best approach with my wife.

Because... A friend kept bugging me to come to a local cardroom that he said was stocked with fish and calling stations. I had been pretty much a max 25c/50c player and was a little concerned about playing $1/3. Finally I agreed to go, bought in for $300 and went home with almost $1K. Excitedly told the wife about my success, and she held out her hand for a share. I reluctantly gave her some, so now when I have a good night, I only "won a little."

She doesn't care. I keep a separate bankroll. I haven't taken money out of my check or savings in almost 7 years because I always play within it.

tl;dr: No, she doesn’t really know. But she knows enough to be comfortable and is happy to support my hobby. I think keeping a separate bankroll goes a long way in that direction.

The above all reflect parts of my situation. We each have “allowance” funds that are relatively small and 100% personal discretionary money direct deposited from paychecks - no questions or consultations needed from the other. Bills and other life expenses are managed together. My poker bankroll has grown from my money, and I now consider it distinct from the “allowance” fund ie I have “poker money”, and “allowance money” that I keep separate.

When I play, it’s usually “won/lost a little, did/not enjoy, did/not play well.” Only once recently did I really share more about a game I was in - the buy-in, win/loss in that session, my strategies and thought process and she effectively conveyed “that’s nice. I’m happy you enjoy that.” I think because my poker bankroll is 100% separate from all other money, that gives her lots of reassurance that I am responsible. I’m also not overly affected by wins/losses (another pro for playing within a bankroll!), just a little groggy some mornings after a late night.

Occasionally I’ll use some poker money to chip in or cover for other “us” stuff. I bought us RT flights to a wedding so we could pick up our puppy sooner (vs wanting to drive to Iowa), bought us a nice breakfast in Vegas the morning after a big win, covered a generous tip for a nice group dinner, etc etc. My wife would never (and shouldn’t, imo) cover my poker losses, so she doesn’t expect a piece of my wins, but she does appreciate when I break off a little bit.

 

[dmoney]

what stakes do people on here typically play? NL / PLO / Limit poker?

Hosting: 25c/50c $100 buy-in

Local underground game(s): 1/2 and some 2/5

Casino: 1/2, 1/3, 2/5, and recently my first 5/10

 

[B.C.]

20+ years of playing weekly 1/3 - 2/5 Circus Games:
Never been asked.
Never told.

 

[TheRealTeddyKGB]

My wife thinks this should be enough for a 3 day meetup.

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Reality:

 

[bergs]

The CLB thought it was ridiculous that I had a separate roll for poker and wanted some of the money to flow back into the family coffers. She knows exactly the stakes I play and I tell her about wins and losses. She can usually tell from my facial expression anyway.

I tried to explain that having a buffer of a roll prevents the playbad as you feel the pressure of being short when buying into games.

She accepted it but really didn’t understand it until I dusted off $2500 at a 3 day 4/8 limit mixed game festival in Vegas, $5K taking shots at 20/40 mixed at the WSOP, 20 straight losing 6/12 and 8/16 mixed casino game sessions here in AZ, and $3400 in Ohio at the meetup. Worst poker period of my life and I’ve been playing 15 years. I’m not even sure what the fuck I’m doing strategically at this point.

So bad news i’m stuck like $15K this year - biggest loss ever by an exponential factor - and it’s playing small ball limit and pot limit mixed games.

Good news (I guess?) is that she gets the need for a roll now.

Probably not playing any poker at all until I get a bonus check in March. Never taken 3 weeks off before. We’ll see what 4 months does.

Cliffs: yes, I am available to come to your home game after March of next year. It’s fine to put the down payment on that vacation home, just tell me when there is a seat open.