Speaking generally, I don't really see why people are so hesitant to take decisive action when it comes to respecting the poker kit. Plenty of enthusiast hosts are spending 1000s or even 10000s on their collections without recouping costs by raking or seeking donations, and even in those that do the latter plenty still run negative due to food costs etc..
Having access to the kit is a privilege, and while no one should make a habit of turning kit costs into a flex, it means hosts really shouldn't have to scramble for justifications to call out people directly (in private or public as appropriate for the infraction). Directness is not the same as rudeness.